Unless you’re as handsome and popular as Hollywood actor Leonardo DiCaprio, the best way to have more hot sex is not by being standoffish or acting as if you’re better than anybody else.
Did you know that Leonardo DiCaprio was rumored to be lazy in bed, so much so that he just lies on his back with his headphones on, vaping while he watches his partner work her way?
Sure, having the advantages of physical beauty and natural charm can put you initially ahead of the pack, but that sounds too amateurish. To really take on the challenge and step up your game one needs to focus more on the intangibles.
Start with reciprocity.
The more you are able to convey your feelings with your partner, the better chances there are for sustained hot sex. Always remember that sex is less a matter of physicality and more of a psychological connection.
Knowing that you’re cared for and that you are actually capable of responding commensurately, that there exists a deeper mutual understanding in the mind of both partners is a major turn on for either sex that is expressed explosively in bed.
According to a report by Huffington Post, Gurit Birnbaum, a psychology professor said, “Sexual desire thrives on increasing intimacy and being responsive is one of the best ways to instill this elusive sensation over time; better than any pyrotechnic sex.”
It’s all in the state of mind. Hot sex doesn’t necessarily fade as relationships grow in time.
And for starters, scoring in bed involves a trait that isn’t necessarily complicated or mysterious. Perhaps what we see in the movies mislead us about our understanding of intimacy and attraction, when it’s actually way simpler than that. It doesn’t have to be James Bond-y at all.
According to a report by the Daily Mail altruism is the key.
Being nice isn’t really about being weak; in fact, a study shows that altruists are more likely to have sex due to its effective signal of selflessness and positivity.
“This study is the first to show that altruism may translate into real mating success in Western populations, that altruists have more mates than non-altruists,” Professor Pat Barclay said, who works as a member of the study by the British Journal of Psychology.
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